At one point in our lives, we all attempt self-discovery. We try to find who we are and gain a sense of self. Some successfully discover themselves. But there are many of us who, even after this phase, still don’t know who we are. Sure, you might be able to list out a description of yourself–your job, your values, your personality traits. But knowing ourselves to our core requires a deeper sense of self than what can be written on paper.
Since I started my self-love journey, I learned to enjoy spending time to myself. As a hard-wired extrovert, alone time felt like absolute banishment in my teenage years. But as I’ve learned to enjoy my own company, I’ve also gained a sense of self that I never thought was possible. No, I don’t know myself to my absolute core. Although I certainly hope to build a strong enough relationship with myself someday. But the first step towards loving myself is knowing who I am.
You Have to Know Yourself to Love Yourself
You wouldn’t expect yourself to deeply and truly fall in love with anyone if you didn’t know them. And you are certainly no exception to that. If you’re here reading this, then you’ve already started your self-love journey (or you’re at least are interested in taking the plunge). So I first want to offer my congratulations. Your self-love journey will not be easy, but it will reward you infinitely once you start. I always say once you start, you’ll never look back! And I secondly want to offer you my support. Supporting, encouraging, and being with you on your self-love journey is entirely why I started Be Simply it.
So let’s take a bit of time today to begin a vital step on your self-love journey. Get to know you!You have to know yourself to love yourself. Dare to take this vital step on your self-love journey! Click To Tweet
Relationships are Hard Work: But Worth It
Your relationship with yourself is a fundamental of your self-love journey. Like any relationship, the one with yourself requires work. You have to put effort into yourself to get to know yourself and love yourself. These are a few ways to begin building a relationship with yourself.
Schedule Me Time (Take Yourself on a Date)
If you want to get to know someone, you spend time with them. Me-time is the basis for you to get to know yourself. When to have some me-time, make sure that it’s quality time. Don’t hap hazardly throw together something without being attentive to yourself. After all, you wouldn’t want to go on a date with someone who didn’t value your presence. If you need some extra inspiration on how to fit me-time into your day, check out these 7 Opportunities to Find More Me-Time.
Me -Time Date Ideas
- Take yourself out for coffee, tea, or a meal
- The classic dinner and a movie
- DIY Spa Day
- Yoga Session
- Learning a new hobby
Learn About Yourself From the Pros
Use different professional techniques to learn about yourself. My personal favorite is the Myers-Briggs Personality Assessment. You can also find free personal and career assessments at your library and other public functions.
I also recommend keeping tabs on your favorite bloggers. I love Jess over at Confident Life and Kate from Mommyhood and Mental Health. These gals are two badass professional psychologists who deliver their knowledge of mental health, happiness, and fulfillment to us! Be sure to check them out!
Write It Out: Map Your Story, Goals, and Dreams
Reflection is a direct way to get to know yourself. Spend some time reflecting on your past, present, and future. Think about your happiness, where you are in life, where you’d like to be, and who you would like to be. My three big questions are usually
- Who is the best version of yourself and how can take steps to become her?
- Where do you want to be in one, five, ten years from now? Are you taking the steps to make that happen?
- What makes you happy? And are you prioritizing that in your life right now?
You can even take things a step further and map out your reflections with pen and paper! It’s always easier to commit once you’ve written it out.
Take some time to get to know yourself this week! Be sure to share your self-love journey with me on Instagram to @besimplyit with #selfloveisntselfish. I can’t wait to see your self-love journey!