Do feel like you’re always running on empty? Like you keep moving from errand to errand without any time to yourself? Do you want more “me time” but just don’t know how to fit it in the day?
Me time is rare and hard to come by. But everyone needs me time as a way to practice self love. You might feel uncomfortable and selfish doing something that’s just for you. And even if you get past that and embrace the truth that self love isn’t selfish, it can be difficult to find the time to make that a reality. Whether you’re a frazzled student like me, a hard worker working long shifts and long weeks, a busy mom constantly on the go, or a combination of all or more of these, it can be difficult to find time to take care of yourself.
To improve our self love and our relationship with ourselves, we need to start small. It boils down to merely minutes a day. Even if you are that busy, there are still moments that you can keep for yourself before giving them to others.
Remember that this is something you deserve. Don’t feel guilty for taking a moment to yourself. While it may seem uncomfortable, awkward, and unfamiliar at first, these moments that are just for you will become welcomed and cherished. So please, take some time for yourself today. You deserve it!
Me Time During Errands
1. Pause Before You Go Inside
On my way home from class, I always have thoughts racing through my head. I’m thinking about what I need to finish that evening for household chores, studying, blogging, etc. Even though my day is “over,” my mind doesn’t unwind.
So I started changing my routine. When I pull into the parking lot at my apartment complex, I don’t immediately head inside. Instead, I try to take a few moments after turning off my car to sit, decompress, and think about things I’m grateful for. This practice helps me from taking home stress from the day. I always come home in a much better mood. I want to associate home with happiness, relaxation, and comfort. By prepping my mind beforehand, I can readjust to welcome myself to all of the beneficial qualities of what I call home.
2. Take Time Walking Through the Parking Lot
One summer I started parking farther away from entrances. My co-worker noticed this and chuckled at me that I’m “one of those people” who tries to get extra exercise by parking far away. Now, I’m not going to dispute the added benefit of being more active throughout the day. But I started parking far away because I felt like my life was too rushed. It was was the summer before I stared college. I was constantly running around, working, and going on errands to prepare for moving in the fall.
By parking farther away from entrances, I had a brief moment to slow down, pace myself, and reach my destination with a clear mind. By the time I reached the front doors of Target, I felt calmer, more collected, and was more productive in accomplishing my errand.
It may seem silly at first, but when you park farther away intentionally, you can use it as an additional moment to walk with purpose. Purposefully take the time to slow down your thoughts, mediate, and be present in the moment. Don’t think about everything you have to do that day, just enjoy the weather and your own company. It only takes an extra minute and you get the added benefit of being outside for a bit more during the day and more activity.
3. Add an Errand to Your Long To-Do List
Purposefully add an errand to your list that is “just for you.” Treat yourself to this errand at the end of your errand to-do list. Swing by Starbucks for a coffee, window shop at your favorite store, browse the make-up aisle at the end of your Target trip. Adding this little errand will be a time “splurge” that you can spend an extra 5-10 minutes doing something that’s just pure fun! You can accomplish your whole to-do list and do something for yourself. Just remember to add self care as part of your daily routine.
Me Time At Home
4. Take Advantage of Sleepiness (as long as it’s not yours)
Whether you wake up before everyone else or go to bed after everyone else, you can always find a bit of me time while others are sleeping. While I don’t recommend doing so at the expense of your own sleep needs and sleep schedule, being the only one awake in the house is a great time to find a bit of peace and time for yourself.
Enjoy your first cup of coffee by yourself and use the time to reflect and prepare yourself for the day. Don’t check email or social media accounts. Use the time for just you; before you start giving it to everyone else. If you’re a night owl, take time to read a book or have a cup of tea to wind down from the day without the distraction of technology.
5. Schedule Appointments with Yourself
Have a regularly scheduled time where you do something for yourself throughout the week. For me, I try to give myself a DIY facial on Sunday nights. Set an appointment with yourself to practice self love. It’s important to keep a commitment to yourself. You wouldn’t ignore doing something kind for a friend, so be sure to extend the same kindness to yourself! Once self care becomes part of your routine, it’s easier to continue the habit.
Me Time At Work
6. Allot “No Work” Thought During Your Lunch
Like walking through the parking lot during errands, it’s important to take a moment of clarity during work. On your lunch break, try to take a few moments at the beginning and/or the end to breathe, collect yourself, and think about something other than work. It’s easy to get caught up when stressful situations arise. At that time, it’s especially important to take a step back and clear your mind so you’re ready to tackle the issue at hand. You can’t fully take on a stressful situation without taking the time for yourself first.
7. Walk it Out
When your thoughts start racing faster than you can process them, you can’t think of where to begin, and you feel just utterly out of control, it’s time to take a step back. When you’re flustered and frustrated, take time to walk a quick lap around the office. Take yourself out the physical space where you’re feeling frustration. Then take yourself out of that mental space.
As you walk, try to be present in the moment. Focus on the physical sensation of walking. How do your clothes feel on your skin? How do your feet feel when they touch the ground? How does your breathing change with each step? Redirecting your focus to physical sensation will reground yourself emotionally. It’s an opportunity to practice mindfulness and appreciate the physical sensations of being alive.Click To Tweet
Even if finding me time throughout the day seems like an impossible tasks, you can do it. Once you embrace the reality that self love isn’t selfish, you can find comfort and refuge in prioritizing yourself. Just because you do something just for yourself doesn’t mean you’re neglecting your job, studies, family, or friends. You have to establish love and grounding within yourself first before you can give it to other people and obligations. Finding your gold nuggets of me time during the day is a great way to practice self love and self care on a daily basis.
Take time for yourself today. I promise you won’t regret it.
How do you find time for yourself on the busiest of days? What are you favorite things to do during “me time?” Have you scheduled time with yourself this week? Share your advice with everyone! We all need a little more me time! 🙂