Over the years, I’ve always had a small number of friends. I never was a part of huge friend groups. Throughout high school, this was admittedly a bit depressing. Most social activities are geared towards large groups (dances, parties, clubs, etc.). And if you don’t have a defined group of friends it’s easy to feel left out.
Even into adulthood, we’re often taught that having a group of friend is the way to socialize. Just watch Friends, How I Met Your Mother, Sex in the City, or most socially based shows. The entire foundation of the show is based on a group of close knit friends and their endeavors.
Recently, I’ve stopped pressuring myself to form a friend group or expect a friend group to equate to happiness. As I learn more and more about myself, I realize that large friend groups just aren’t my thing. And, that it’s completely okay to feel that way.
Moreover, I actually find more satisfaction from having a few individual friends, all of whom I’m very close to emotionally.
The greatest part about this type of friend circle is that I can curate and collect the right type of people. Each of my friends provides for me in a specific way that’s unique from all the others. Ok, not to make my friends sound like my property or objects. I love, adore, and respect them to the utmost esteem. But, they each have a particular chemistry that, when combined, makes me feel supported, loved, and absolutely invincible.
If you also feel like it’s time to forgo the usual standard of friend groups, these are the five types of friends I have who help me rock at life (and hopefully, you can find them too!).
Oh, and they’re listed in no particular order of importance. 🙂
The Steadfast Support
My boyfriend and I are absolute best friends. We do everything together from hitting the town to binge watching Criminal Minds, Burn Notice, AND Futurama in one day. Merely existing in the same vicinity brings the biggest grins on our faces.
But for everything that my boyfriend and our relationship provides for me, the uniqueness he brings to my friend circle is his steadfast support. He’s always there to support my endeavors, my dreams, and my passions as much as he’s there for me through struggles, stress, and heartbreak. I always know that he’s there to be my right hand man.
No matter who your steadfast support is in your life, it always important to have a cheerleader in your corner. Why? Because they manage to believe in us when we simply can’t. And we all need that person to stand by us, love us, and value us regardless of our accomplishments and failures.
The Casual Partner in Crime
My buddy Anna is my newest friend, but certainly not the least important. We first met at our overnight Black Friday shift at Starbucks. From 12PM to 7AM, we completely clicked. After a few short months of Monday morning carpools to campus, coffee shop study sessions, and plenty of emotional eating throughout the semester, we became fast friends.
The best part about our friendship is that we can go from plotting and planning shenanigans to lazily sitting there eating chips and be equally as happy. Why? Because we purely enjoy the company and companionship of the other.
We play off each other’s crazy energy and completely embrace our weirdness. I always tell Anna that I feel so emotionally valued in our friendship. When I’m with her, it feels like I am and always will be simply enough. I don’t need to be anyone more than merely myself to be loved, cherished, and valued.
When I think of Anna, I think of friendship in its most classic form. My buddy, partner in crime, casual companion, and friend to the end. We all need someone who we enjoy being with purely because the chemistry between us is perfect. Who is your bestie til the end?
The Supportive, But Differing Opinion
My friend Meredith and I have known one another since elementary school. While we’ve certainly had our ups and downs, our friendship has blossomed in the past few years. She’s a beautiful soul and incredibly unique.
Side note: I used to be jealous of her growing up! But in the past few months, I’ve learned that I can love and appreciate her while still feeling as strong about myself and my own work
One of Meredith’s especially unique traits is her ability to balance my personality. Whenever I need advice or am facing conflict, she always manages to tell me what I don’t want to hear (but should), while still sounding like she’s completely on my side. She’s saved me from many a rash decisions, over the top reactions, and poorly written blog content (hey thanks!).
Of course, no one is perfect and no one is perfectly elegant at handling social situations. That’s why we need a friend who interacts with people differently than we do. Their difference in socialization tactics will balance us out.
Even if I want to behave in ways that Meredith would normally find over the top, she knows me well enough to bring me down without sounding like she disrespects my emotional reaction. And who wouldn’t want someone like on your side?
The Different Thinker
I’m a highly emotional thinker. Chances are, if you read my blog, you are too! I think with my heart more than not and usually surprise people when I say that I was a math major.
Yet, my friend Sarah is a highly logically based thinker. As an engineer and scientifically thinking person, we certainly view the world differently than one another.
But as my oldest friend, Sarah and I have built an incredible friendship of showing one another different ways of thinking. She’s told me how she processes and handles conflict which has increased my ability to not let my emotions get the better of me.
At the same time, I have told her many a times that what she feels is just as important as what she thinks! We use our differences and years of friendship to make one another better people. And I could never replace her for it!
It’s so important to have friends who help you be the best version of yourself. We all need to surround ourselves with people who bring out the best in us as often as we can!
My friend Katie is one of the most capable people I know. She once worked 4 jobs to make enough in one summer for in state tuition. I’ve always admired how driven she is. She and her boyfriend make their long distance relationship work by meeting one another in a new city every time. How freaking cool is that?
Katie is the friend who shows me there’s more to the world than simply my own box. Just listening to her adventures in new locations, jobs, internships, and conferences makes me want to expand my life experience. Better yet, I feel like I can actually do more because she’s doing all these things herself.
With our day to day lives being busy enough, it’s easy to get caught up in our worlds. That’s why we need a friend who’s living a life that’s so different from our own. They push us to see more and do more purely by example. And if we’re lucky, we’ll get to partake on some of their adventures with them!
Do these 5 types of friends make the list for you? Have a different type of friend who you couldn’t live without? Let me know in a comment below! I’d love to hear who’s important in your life.
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